Regarding: Bingo

I stumbled across a blog post yesterday regarding the choice to be Childfree.  And the more I thought about it, the more I knew I had to share it with others.  You can read the full post here.  It is a lengthy, and very articulate, list of items related to remaining Childfree by choice as well as some additional color on parents, children and relationships.  Well worth a read, even if you don’t agree with much of it, or any of it.

But it was something in the comments that really got me thinking.  Someone felt the need to suggest that this particular woman seemed to be advocating discriminating against children.  WHAT?

I believe I understood what the blogger was trying to say.  CHOOSING to have  children, either by a willing act OR by failing to take steps to prevent a pregnancy, does not grant you special status or rights as a “parent.”  It is a very un-unique experience actually.  And making the choice shouldn’t somehow put you in a special class of people.

I don’t believe she was advocating any sort of discrimination against children.  But was instead making the point that having a child or being a parent does not make you unique or allow you certain privileges.  It doesn’t automatically make you more tired, more broke, more organized, more caring or more anything than anyone that doesn’t have kids.  It doesn’t somehow elevate you above all others.

Then I found this and just had to laugh

Breeder Bingo

About nfoste2245

I am approaching 40 and have been married since my early 20's. I have become more than a little frustrated with having to answer incredibly personal questions about my choice to not have children. It is apparently taboo to talk about religion and politics, but confronting me about my reproductive choices is fair game. It is not a choice I made alone, quickly or lightly. My husband and I made it together. I am not "withholding" children or grandchildren from anyone. There is an astonishing lack of understanding over the idea that it is an actual choice, to have a child or not. There is also an amazing lack of support, discussion and resources for those like me, that have made the choice. This is not a blog for kid-haters, or mocking people for having kids. It is a place where we can talk about living full lives, without kids, and without guilt.

Posted on March 8, 2012, in Blogging, Rants, Uncategorized and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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