Regarding: Truth

I saw this on Facebook awhile ago (thanks Shane!) and have wanted to do something with it. But didn’t want to go to far.  In the spirit of passage however, the truth is the truth.

And the truth is that we all have these people in our lives.  And for some reason, they don’t seem to know who they are.  And we are afraid to either tell them the truth or remove them from our lives all together.

Obviously, some people are here to stay.  I would LOVE some pointers on how to deal with the people that can’t be removed entirely (and of course, they don’t know who they are.)   But If someone is a drag on your spirit and does not enhance your life, why are they in it?

My friend Barney calls these people “resource vampires”.  They suck you dry.   Resources being everything from your time, emotion, support as well as more materialistic resources. And they often offer nothing in return.

So, just like I would cut a cancer out of my body that was making me sick, I am not afraid to cut out the people that are doing the same thing.  Real drama finds us all often enough.  I don’t need people in my life who fabricate and create drama out of nothing.   I chose to surround myself with those that celebrate and create joy.  We will support each other when the joy is harder to find.  But above all, we will lift each other up.


About nfoste2245

I am approaching 40 and have been married since my early 20's. I have become more than a little frustrated with having to answer incredibly personal questions about my choice to not have children. It is apparently taboo to talk about religion and politics, but confronting me about my reproductive choices is fair game. It is not a choice I made alone, quickly or lightly. My husband and I made it together. I am not "withholding" children or grandchildren from anyone. There is an astonishing lack of understanding over the idea that it is an actual choice, to have a child or not. There is also an amazing lack of support, discussion and resources for those like me, that have made the choice. This is not a blog for kid-haters, or mocking people for having kids. It is a place where we can talk about living full lives, without kids, and without guilt.

Posted on October 14, 2011, in Blogging and tagged , . Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.

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