Welcome

I have been trying to think about how to introduce this new blog, and myself, to the people who read blogs.  How can I be clever, witty, funny and tell you how this blog will be different than all of the others?  I will introduce myself and my tell you my story in a later post.  Here is the intro:

This blog will be for, and about, those of us that have made a choice to not have children.  For a variety of reasons, none of which really matter.  And how we are living full and rewarding lives.  Just about any and every topic is fair game including: marriage/relationships, sex, family (in-laws), politics, travel, food, pets, money, and anything else that comes to mind or annoys me on an almost daily basis.

What it won’t be is a place for people to convince me I am wrong in my choice or tell me how much I am missing as a result (or as I woman, I HATE that one especially).  There will be guest bloggers as well, some that have made the same choice and others that have made a different choice and yet still manage to understand this perspective.  I thank them in advance for dedicating some time to this.

So jump in and see where this might go.  I can’t promise it will always be profound or live-altering.  But it should be fun, or amusing.   Just my thoughts on choosing to stay childless in a world where everyone is having kids or talking about having kids.

About nfoste2245

I am approaching 40 and have been married since my early 20's. I have become more than a little frustrated with having to answer incredibly personal questions about my choice to not have children. It is apparently taboo to talk about religion and politics, but confronting me about my reproductive choices is fair game. It is not a choice I made alone, quickly or lightly. My husband and I made it together. I am not "withholding" children or grandchildren from anyone. There is an astonishing lack of understanding over the idea that it is an actual choice, to have a child or not. There is also an amazing lack of support, discussion and resources for those like me, that have made the choice. This is not a blog for kid-haters, or mocking people for having kids. It is a place where we can talk about living full lives, without kids, and without guilt.

Posted on August 2, 2011, in Welcome/Intro's. Bookmark the permalink. 4 Comments.

  1. I found you via a comment you made on HRG’s blog and I’m so glad I did! I thought I was the only other woman in the world that had decided not to have children. Isn’t it amazing how many of our friends/family feel like they have the right to comment on that choice? One of my favorite comic strips recently posted one about remaining childless; I loved it and think you will too. Here is the link: http://basicinstructions.net/basic-instructions/2011/7/26/how-to-explain-why-youve-chosen-not-to-have-children.html
    I hope you don’t get any flack for having a blog about being kidless. And if you do, remember you’re a hero in my book. Here’s to sleeping in and not driving mini-vans!!

    • Thank you for finding me and joining in on the fun. And the cartoon is GREAT! Hopefully, we can bring some understand on making a different choice. I don’t hate kids. I just don’t want them.

  2. I can’t really think of a way to say this without sounding crazy and creepy, but we’re soulmates! Hm, maybe I should just keep my mouth shut.

    Let me try again not like a crazy person–what you’ve said has really resonated with me. (Whew, that’s less scary.) My husband and I have been together for 12 years, and we decided pretty early on that kids weren’t for us. We decided instead to “raise” (ha) a hyper poodle, travel the world, and enjoy our friends’ kids for short periods of time. We aren’t baby haters, just not the choice we’ve made. I found your blog through Eat Watch Run and you had me at the title of your blog. I’m looking forward to reading along. 🙂

    • Lana – Welcome! It doesn’t sound creepy (to me). It has been hard to find my voice on this topic since it seems that people are judging me all the time. But I have been very fortunate to find friends that understand and respect that is a choice we all (should) make for ourselves. And I (maybe like you) am just done apologizing for it! I intend to enjoy and share my life. So chime in or just read along. Whatever you are comfortable with. And now I wonder why I am up at 6am on a Saturday, without kids. Oh yea, that running thing. Now I remember.

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